A Letter to my Friend

The other day one of my friends,who is like a kid bro to me, came up and said,"Bhai, aapne jitna duniya dekha hai maine utna dekha nahi hai aur life ke baare main jyaada kuch nahi jaanta lekin ek baat ka mujhe yakin hai ki jab bhi mujhe kisi bhi cheez ki zaroorat hogi to aap mere saath hamesha honge(Bro, I havent seen life as much as you have and i dont know much about it either,however i am confident that whenever i need something u will always be there for me)".Well,what could i say???Tears had welled up in my eyes and i just hugged him.
This incident inspired me to write the following:

"A Letter to My Friend"

Dear Friend,
Whenever you are feeling low and want to cry,
I may not be able to make you laugh but will surely be there to cry with you.
Whenever you are feeling miserable and want to run far away,
I may not stop you and cheer u up but will surely be there to run away with you.
Whenever you have a problem and want to get out of it,
I may not be able to provide solutions but will surely be there to listen to you.
Whenever you are victorious and want to celebrate,
I may not be able to sing your praises but will surly be there to get a cake.
But,
Whenever you look around and realize I am not with you,
Trust me,that is the time when "I need You"

about me

A lot of my friends who had a look at my blog suggested that i should write something about myself.Now,the million dollar question is what should i write about??

So, here i am making an attempt to write about myself.Who am I???Wow now that is a pretty challenging question...i myself have no clue about who i am....just in case i answer that question then probably i too could become a guruji and people would start worshiping me...ok ok will not start getting philosophical....

Well i am the "aam aadmi" born in kerala,brought up in Mumbai, have lived on this holy earth for the past 25yrs.I have done my graduation,a post graduate diploma,have worked with India's largest private sector bank and am now,like any other sheep in the herd,pursuing MBA.

I understand now i am supposed to tell about my likes and dislikes.To be frank i dont know what are my likes and dislikes...i will have to think over and let u all know...

Continuing with my bio data,It is said we are not one but 3.What we think we are,what others think we are and what we actually are.It sounded confusing to me in the beginning but later could comprehend the meaning.I think  i am a person who likes to have fun,likes to talk a lot(seriously sometimes it becomes tough to stop me) and i, like anyone else do speak a lot of crap.i love music.My hobbies include dramatics and public speaking(given the fact that i like to sermonize a lot) and i consider to be pretty good at it...........hey guys u know what... i am actually enjoying writing this..... this is the time when i can exalt myself and sing my own glory.....my friend who is sitting next to me is saying.."what the hell?? u r praising yourself!!!!!!!" well whats wrong??? can u do it for me??can u praise me??? no rite??? 

yes friends.......the world might not be always kind enough to keep u happy always...in case it does to u,then u r lucky....it is left to us to remain happy...as the saying goes..

"Pain is inevitable,suffering is optional"

There is this acquaintance of mine who was explaining to me the joys of boozing,smoking and ogling at girls etc...I was showing least interest in his talks...no no i am not saying i am not interested in women..but the manner in which he was talking was of no interest to me...at this he mocked at me by saying,"arre tu to abhi bhi bachha hai na(u r still a kid)" and laughed out aloud...i immediately shot back at him and said ,"tune bada hoke kya ukhad liya?(what have u achieved by growing)"..i continued by saying."if this is what it means by growing,then i prefer to be a child"..Such statements especially from me flabbergasted him.He had nothing more to say but quietly walk away.
I was feeling very proud at that point in time… “A fiiting reply” I thought.While I was extolling myself at this feat of teaching him a good lesson, my mind which is sometimes as bubbly as a champagne said....”the words that I had uttered had just come out in the spur of the moment..what did I actually mean??” I realised that I had actually spoken the bitter fact of life..what have we achieved till date?? Take me for example…its been 25 years that this lump of flesh has existed on this beautiful place called earth..what have I achieved?? In how many people’s faces have i brought a smile?? What are the number of incidents that made my parents,friends,relatives feel proud of me???
This is something that I should seriously think about.If the numbers to the question are high,then I need to keep it up…if not then better pull up your socks ashish…

Simplicity of Life

It is said that to be happy in life it is very essential to make life simple and not complicated but how many of us realize it and understand it???why tell others...do i realize it???this was 'the question' and 'the thought' that was bothering me a lot when i noticed something different yesterday.I have been apparently 'very busy' in the last week or so preparing for the TATA Business Leadership awards and yesterday while returning back from the college computer centre at around 9 45pm, i saw something very simple in our lives.My mind was so complicated with thoughts of my abilities to present,the work i was doing etc etc that this incident came as an eye opener.I saw a  person riding on a bicycle and on this cycle was also seated his daughter.This small girl probably around 5 yrs old was having a gala ride with her father(i guess).The father and the daughter very laughing away to glory as they enjoyed the cool breeze that was blowing.The father looked very simple(my positive attitude does not allow me to use the word "poor") and imagine we,who consider ourselves 'well-to-do' do not have the so called 'time' to enjoy such simple experiences.
I started thinking....what is the use of all this?why am i doing all this?am i actually enjoying what i do?well i have still not answered my own questions..why dont u ask this questions to urself?if u have answered to ur satisfaction then i guess u could be happy...:)

why good people suffer???

This is a question that some of my best friends have asked me.(the very fact that they are my best friends would mean that they are good people...).Some of the common questions are "Ye mere saatha hi kyun hota hai?".Anyways, i was thinking what do i tell them when they share their feelings with me?How can i console them?
Some people say the answer lies in 'karma theory'.They say you might have done something in your previous birth...arre then why punish him/her in this birth...not very convincing right?? My mind started pondering over this issue and then a thought dawned upon me.I think God,probably, makes the good people suffer because it is through them that the world can learn the 'ideal way of life'.Also,it is only they who have the capacity to face difficulties.Our scriptures are a proof to my statement.In Mahabharata,Mother Kunti and her sons,the pandavas always faced troubles.However,God(Krishna) was always by their side and that is why people for ages have respect for them.Similarly,Rama had to face a lot of hardships and today people rever Him as their Lord.I dont say we are as great as them,but the good suffer so that others can look at them and emulate their ideologies and values in their lives too.
The need of the hour is transformation and for this 'the good people' have to make that sacrifice for the betterment of the society.It is the attitude that is very important.The perfect example is one of my friends whom i met this vacation.This friend(name undisclosed) had faced a difficult situation which i had seen myself.However,this person took it as a challenge and overcame it successfully.The friend later told me that it was an experience and not a hardship.......hmmm something that we could emulate...

Is prison a better place than office???

@ PRISON	@ WORK
You spend the majority of your time in a 10X10 cell @ PRISON	you spend the majority of your time In an 6X6 cubicle /office @ WORK
You get three meals a day fully paid for @ PRISON	you get a break for one meal and You have to pay for it @ WORK
You get time off for good behavior	you get more work for Good behavior
@ PRISON The guard locks and unlocks all the doors for you @ PRISON	@ WORK You must often carry a security card And open all the doors for yourself @ WORK
You can watch TV and play games @ PRISON	you could get fired for watching TV and playing games @ WORK
You get your own toilet @ PRISON	you have to share the toilet with Some people who pee on the seat @ WORK
They allow your family and friends to visit @ PRISON	you aren't even supposed to speak To your family @ WORK
All expenses are paid by the taxpayers with no work required @ PRISON	you get to pay all your expenses to go To work, and they deduct taxes from Your salary to pay for prisoners @ WORK
You spend most of your life inside bars wanting to get out	you spend most of your time wanting To get out and go inside bars
@ PRISON You must deal with sadistic wardens	@ WORK They are called managers

Tears of joy

How often has someone come and appreciated u or praised u for a job well done???Well, in my life,i have observed that if your duty was to complete a task and in case u did it well,then u dont always recieve a pat on the back for the simple reason that u were supposed to do it.At the same time,if you are not effective and efficient,then you had it...some times you could have a glimpse at the "dictionary of abuses"(majority of the people are well versed atleast in this field).
I was thinking of the above yesterday and thought of making some difference in atleast one person's life for that day.The whole day passed and unfortunately did not find anyone who was worth my praise..:)..i guess the problem here was i had no time to notice the good work the others were doing...how selfish and unfortunate of me...anyways,it was dinner time and with my plate and glass in hand,was standing in line to take my share of roti and sabzi.I had my dinner,which was pretty good compared to hostel standards and then miraculously it struck to me that here was my oppurtunity.It is said if u even think of doing some good deed,then God comes to ur rescue.After i finished my dinner,i went straight to the kitchen in charge and complimented him for the amazing dinner.What transpired next will remain etched in my memory forever.The moment i complimented the gentleman,there were TEARS OF JOY in his eyes.He went on to tell me that not many students come and tell him that the food was great today.He also said that he would sleep very well that night.I had nothing more to say after that.I just walked away form there.Needless to say,i too slept well last night.
Thank you God for making me a worthy instrument in your hands and hope You will continue to guide me always

Suggestions required.......

One of my friends was facing a problem.He is working in metropolitan city.He has this roommate who is so close to him that he considers my friend's belongings to be his own.My friend was giving me an eg.A month ago,my friend bought a new,branded perfume.His roommate had started using it more frequently than him.My friend,who is very submissive,wants a way out...what do u think he should do???
Well,my suggestion was: buy him a perfume(of course a cheap one) and tell him that since he uses a perfume regularly,u thought it was the best gift to give.If he has an iota of shame left in him,he will stop.

My first blog

Well here i am writing my first blog...thoughts immediately have started running around looking for things to write in the first blog...what should i write about??? There are so many things that i want to share with all of u..well i just came to know on starting this blog that i can earn PAISA thru blogging....vaah...my mind immediately has started shouting "Beta ab shuru ho gaya na ,note dikha nahi ki  sapna kharidne shuru ???"